Young children often move before they fully understand what is happening around them. They may run across a wet floor, climb something unsafe, rush towards the stairs, or step in front of moving playground equipment. These actions are usually caused by excitement, curiosity, or excess energy rather than deliberate disobedience.
The words adults use in these moments can shape how children respond. Shouting, blaming, or using frightening warnings may stop the behaviour briefly, but it does not always teach the child what to do differently. Calm and direct language gives children a clear action they can remember and repeat.
A helpful phrase is, “Stop your body.” This tells the child exactly what is expected. Once the child is still, an adult can say, “Look around you.” This encourages the child to notice the floor, nearby objects, other people, or anything that may be moving.
The next instruction can be, “Choose the safest way.” The adult can then guide the child towards a practical decision, such as walking slowly, holding the handrail, waiting for a turn, or asking for help.

Parents can also use short questions. They might ask, “What do you notice?” “Is anything moving?” “Could you bump your head?” or “What is the safe choice?” These questions help children take part in the decision instead of simply being told what not to do.
It is important to recognise safe behaviour when it happens. Adults can say, “You stopped before the stairs,” “You waited until the swing stopped,” or “You looked before you moved.” Specific praise helps children understand which action was responsible and encourages them to repeat it.
Marcus Monkey’s Safety Smarts: Stop. Look. Choose. offers parents, carers, and teachers a simple way to introduce this language. Marcus is an energetic young monkey who loves to run, climb, and jump. At first, he often moves without thinking, but the Safety Squad teaches him how to pause, check his surroundings, and choose a safer action.
The story uses familiar situations, calm reminders, repetition, and positive praise. Its clear approach can be especially useful for children with ADHD or autism who may benefit from predictable instructions and repeated practice.
Children should not be made to feel ashamed for being active. They need guidance that helps them understand how to use their energy safely. With phrases such as “Stop. Look. Choose,” adults can turn impulsive moments into practical lessons.
Marcus Monkey’s Safety Smarts helps children learn that they can still explore, play, and enjoy movement. They simply need to pause, notice what is around them, and think before taking the next step.